Awakening brings with it two stunning realizations: That there is nothing and nobody to blame for unhappiness, ever – no parent, no boss, no event, no ‘mistake’, no bodily ‘problem’, no government, no authority figure, no substance, no presence or absence of that which is wanted or unwanted. And true joy and contentment are without cause, and never dependent on circumstances. There is no excuse for misery, and no excuse required for joy.
This kind of radical freedom and responsibility (or lack of it) can be dizzying and even terrifying at first, and bring with it profound existential uncertainty. “Nobody to blame anymore? Nothing external can make me happy? Then what’s it all about? Why do I bother? Who the hell am I?”. But stick with the uncertainty, friends. Allow the ground beneath you to open up. Be here. Breathe. Remember that only the false can die. Free fall into wonder.
Taste the delight in life, naked.
Marry someone who lets you have a bite of their brownie, even when you said you weren’t hungry. Marry someone who laughs at the same things you do. Marry someone who kisses your nose on a cold day. Marry someone who you can watch Disney movies with. Marry someone who is proud of you whether you earn £5 a week or £5,000 a week. Marry someone who you can tell everything to. Marry someone who isn’t afraid or embarrassed to hold your hand in public. Marry someone who lets you take over when decorating a cake. Marry someone who you can spend the day in Ikea with without feeling stressed. Marry someone who wraps you up inside their coat in the winter. Marry someone who accepts your fears and phobias. Marry someone who gives you butterflies every time you hear their key in the door. Marry someone who you don’t always have to shave your legs for. Marry someone who accepts you all day every day, even when you don’t look or feel your best. Marry someone who puts three sugars in your tea, despite telling them “just the two”. Marry someone who doesn’t judge you when you eat your body weight in cookies. Marry someone who doesn’t make you want to check your phone, because you know they will reply. Marry someone who waits with you to get on the train. Marry someone who understands that you need to be alone sometimes. Marry someone who gets on well with your parents and isn’t uptight about family events. Marry someone who calms you down when you get mad about stupid stuff, and never tells you it’s “only stupid stuff”. Marry someone who makes you want to be a better person. Marry someone who makes you laugh. Marry someone who you love. Marry your soulmate, your lover, your best friend. —
holy shit. this is perfect.
When another person makes you suffer, it is because he suffers deeply within himself, and his suffering is spilling over. He does not need punishment; he needs help. That’s the message he is sending. —Thich Nhat Hanh (via samsaranmusing)
1. contrary to popular belief, waking up early isn’t going to drastically alter your life or effect how you’re feeling. so sleep til noon and relish in the way laying in bed all day makes you feel a little more human.
2. drinking your coffee ‘black’ doesn’t make you cooler or more sophisticated than the rest of us who load in milk and sugar.
3. being unimpressed by everything makes you look like a twat. get excited, be overly passionate about something. enthusiasm is fun.
4. hating yourself isn’t romantic.
5. eat whatever you want. your friend’s a vegan? awesome. listen to her talk about how great she feels because of it while you tuck in to some chocolate cake. tell her you feel just as great. —More Reminders - Charlotte Geier (via thegoatthatroared)
Her beauty cannot be measured with standards of a colonized mind. —Michelle NdegeOcello (via theheadreptilianswife)
You don’t need another human being to make your life complete, but let’s be honest. Having your wounds kissed by someone who doesn’t see them as disasters in your soul but cracks to put their love into is the most calming thing in this world. —Emery Allen (via shittyteenblog)
i hope you fall in love with someone who makes you question why you ever thought you would be better off alone
When you grow up as a girl, the world tells you the things that you are supposed to be: emotional, loving, beautiful, wanted. And then when you are those things, the world tells you they are inferior: illogical, weak, vain, empty. The world teaches you that the way you exist in it is disgusting — you watch boys cringe backward in your dorm room when you talk about your period, blue water pretending to be blood in a maxi pad commercial. It is little things, and it is constant. In a food court in a mall, after you go to the gynecologist for the first time, you and your friend talk about how much it hurts, and over her shoulder you watch two boys your age turn to look at you and wrinkle their noses: the reality of your life is impolite to talk about. The world says that you don’t have a right to the space you occupy, any place with men in it is not yours, you and your body exist only as far as what men want to do with it. At fifteen, you find fifteen-year-old boys you have never met somehow believe you should bend your body to their will. At almost thirty, you find fifteen-year-old boys you have never met still somehow believe you should bend your body to their will. They are children. They are children. —Stevie Nicks (via s-unyata)
If you asked me now who I am, the only answer I could give with any certainty would be my name. For the rest: my loves, my hates, down even to my deepest desires, I can no longer say whether these emotions are my own, or stolen from those I once so desperately wished to be. —Evelyn Waugh, Brideshead Revisited (via quota-tions)
If you want to be happy, be. —Leo Tolstoy (via z-ouk)
Good Omens, Terry Pratchett & Neil Gaiman